Bonnie K. Beckett

November 30, -0001 - March 25, 2009

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Bonnie Katherine (Barker) Beckett, wife of Richard Alden Beckett, Lieutenant Colonel USAF (Ret), died Wednesday, March 25, 2009 at Mercy Fairfield Hospital. Bonnie, daughter of Bill and Berta Barker was born in Fayette, Arkansas, May 19, 1950. She lived in Rapid City, South Dakota, and Akron, Ohio graduating from Ellet High; attended the University of Akron and Bowling Green State University where she graduated with honors with a bachelor’s degree in Interior Design. Bonnie was a member of Delta Gamma Sorority at the University of Akron. During Rick’s military career, they lived in various locations throughout the United States including Louisiana, Arizona, Colorado, and Ohio including Bowling Green and Cincinnati. Bonnie leaves their children and families – Stephanie (Glen) Steinbrunner and grandchildren Brandon and Alexandra of Baltimore, Maryland; their son Steven Beckett (Jessica Schulz) of Little Rock, Arkansas. Bonnie’s brother Bill K. Barker II (Nancy), nieces and nephews, Alexander, Alissa, Alana, and Thomas of Eagle Rock, Missouri; Bonnie’s sister Patty (Ted) Reed and their son Sterling of Novato, California. She also leaves Rick’s brother Gary (Joyce) Beckett of Oxford, Ohio and their families Tracy, John, and Shannon. Also surviving is Rick’s father Alden Beckett of Monroe, Ohio. Bonnie was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in 1993. Calling hours are from 6:00 – 8:00 pm, Tuesday, March 31, 2009 at Hodapp Funeral Home, 8815 Cincinnati-Columbus Road, West Chester, Ohio 45069 (513) 777-8433. Funeral service will be on Wednesday, April 1, 2009 at 10 a.m. at Faith Community United Methodist Church, 8230 Cox Road, West Chester, Ohio. Officiating is Reverend Barbara Hobe. Burial will be in the West Chester Township Cemetery, West Chester, Ohio Tribute to Bonnie Beckett March 26, 2009 In my family, when we are happy, we write about it. When we are sad, we write about it. In an attempt to understand the deep feelings we are experiencing; we write. Bonnie knew this about me, and my family. So, I’m sure she is helping me find the strength right now to write about how I feel. I know, at this moment, what the expression “heavy heart” means. It is with the heaviest of hearts, I mourn the loss of my dear, dear friend. She was truly a special and wonderful person, and friend. She helped me through some rough times of my own, by somehow making me feel like I was the best and strongest person she knew. I tried to encourage her through her difficult times, but I feel I fell woefully short in comparison to her strength for me. My times of difficulty were short in duration, her times of difficulty were many and very long in duration. And yet, the last person to ever complain about her difficult life situation was Bonnie. She taught us all the meaning of Courage. As a mother, she was the BEST. Dave and I marveled at the home environment that Bonnie and Rick created and provided for their children and later grandchildren. We told them often; that they were the “Gold Standard” of parents in our estimation. Even when Stephanie and Steve were very young, those two kids were always interested and part of the adult visits we had and enjoyed the same respect in the conversations as the adult guests enjoyed. The kids were a joy to be around and, not surprisingly turned into adults who continue to be our favorite people. Great work, Rick and Bonnie, You taught us the meaning of Responsibility. As a friend, whose lifetime was dedicated to making “all things beautiful” as an interior designer, she gave me more than a little help in decorating my house and she never failed to compliment, or correct me, when it was warranted. She demonstrated remarkable resilience in keeping her home and her person perfect even while negotiating life with a wheelchair. She taught us all, that “no matter what life deals you, you should always look your best.” And, she always followed her own advice on that life lesson. Always the cheerleader, always the teacher, always the coach, Bonnie touched everyone she met with her wit, charm and entertaining banter. We are ALL better people for the time we spent with her. We are ALL feeling the heaviest of hearts for the loss of her presence in our lives. And it is going to be a lot harder getting through life for those of us she left behind. But, she would smile and say, “Didn’t you learn anything from me? You gotta pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and make some lemonade out of those lemons.” She showed us HOW, every day of her life! Now, it’s our turn to make her proud of what a great teacher she was. We already miss you Bon, but thanks to your lessons in life, I think we can make it, too. Love to my dearest friend, Carol (and Dave) Biemel


Condolences

susie kiehl - Apr 4, 2009

I am so sorry to learn of Bonnie’s death. Losing a sister is so hard. Just remember she will always be with you. Bonnie and Gina are now having the tea party that I always interfered with.

Barbara (Barker) Owens - Apr 2, 2009

Uncle Bill, Aunt Berta, & family,

You are all in my thoughts and prayers. May the Lord comfort you in this time of loss.

It is sad that all of the cousins have been so far apart through the years. It would have been so nice to really get to know each other.

My love,
Barbara & Jim

Tracey Bishop - Apr 2, 2009

To Rick and Family,

I was blessed with the opportunity to become friends with Rick and Bonnie over the last 10 years. Bonnie was such a wonderful caring person and will be missed by all. Sorry for your loss, please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

The Barker-Johns Family - Apr 1, 2009

Rick, Stephanie, Steven, Bill, Berta, Billy and Patty,
We are so very saddened by Bonnie’s passing, she was loved and will be missed so deeply by all who knew her. Our loss is Heaven’s gain, just think of the rejoicing going on there! We are glad that her style, and loving spirit will live on in her family that she loved so very much. We wish we could have been there but serious health conditions prevented it. You are all in our thoughts, hearts and prayers. With much love,
Aunt Alice Barker, and (cousin) Wanda (Barker) and Ron Johns

Cathy Dartnall - Apr 1, 2009

Bonnie had such a spirit. And now her spirit is free from the body that betrayed her. I was lucky to have known her and I was strengthened by her determination and courage against what at time seemed like insurmountable barriers. I will remember her as a beautiful friend inside and out .

Jennifer Tankersley - Mar 31, 2009

Rick, Steve and Stephanie I want to share my deapest sympathy with you all. I am truely very sorry for your loss. I owe what I have become to Bonnie and you Rick. I will always love you guys and have thought about you all often. The world was a better place with Bonnie here and she is going to me missed dearly.

The Rapien Family - Mar 31, 2009

Rick,

Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time. Bonnie was a wonderful person and we were awed by her strength and positive spirit. She will always be with you looking down from heaven with a smile on her face. She will truly be missed.

Lynn & Russell

Dawn Caracoglia - Mar 31, 2009

Dear Rick, thank you for being such a wonderful husband to my dear cousin. You were her soulmate, her best friend. You and the kids were everything to her. We were all blessed to have her! I’m so sorry I can’t be there. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Stephanie and Steven, I’m so sorry you lost your mom. I know how proud she was of both of you and how much she loved you and the grandbabies. I know how much you miss her. I wish I could have spent a lot more time with her, but I live too far away with limited funds for travel. She was always very dear to my heart. I know she’ll be watching from Heaven, still cheering you on.
Uncle Bill, Aunt Berta, Bill, and Patty, I’m at a loss for words. She was a very precious, special, sweet and wonderful person, and I loved her dearly. I remember last time I called her we were laughing hysterically about something. She told me I was nuts and I told her that’s just the ole’ Barker sense of corny humor. I will always remember her with love – she was truly special.
With love to you all,
Dawn

Gail Russell-Thompson - Mar 30, 2009

Bonnie,

You touched my life. I love and miss you. May your family be comforted with the love that you shared with all who knew you.

Love and hugs,

Gail

Jack and Linda Schell - Mar 30, 2009

Rick we were thinking about us all last week. So sorry. Can’t think of any words to say. Jack

The Kreger Family - Mar 30, 2009

Rick & Family

I only had the pleasure once to meet Bonnie — she impressed me with her exceptional spirit and sunshine-filled disposition.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Barry, Chris, Lauren & Andrew

Sandra Bennett - Mar 30, 2009

Rick, We extend our deepest sympathy to you and your family during this sad time. I am so glad I had the opportunity to meet Bonnie; she is a true inspiration. Please find some comfort in knowing you are in our thoughts and prayers. Sandra and family

The Harrigan Family - Mar 29, 2009

Rick,
It was always a pleasure and inspiration to talk to Bonnie. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. If there is anything we can do to help, please let us know.

Duane and Diane Whitmire - Mar 29, 2009

Rick: Our heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. I have lost my dearest and closest friend. Bonnie was the kind of person everyone loved from the minute you met her. She never let the disease hold her back and seldom did I hear her complain. You, her children and her grandchildren were her pride and joy. She has taught us all the real meaning of life and that is don’t take any day for granted. We are here for you – all you need to do is call.

Pete Jones - Mar 27, 2009

Rick (and family)

Those of us who know you, and were lucky enough to meet Bonnie, could instantly tell that your love for each other was deep rooted and special. You raised a wonderful family based on shared values and dreams, and Bonnie’s legacy will live and grow through the special nurturing Stephanie and Steven provide to their children. As you have strengthened others with your kind words, encouragement, and support over the years, know that we are here for you in your time of need. Let those who care deeply for you, share your burden of loss and emptiness. Take the time you need to grieve and heal. Thinking of you often, Pete.

Cliff Dixon - Mar 27, 2009

Ricky,
Pete’s words so eloquently how we feel about you. I cannot improve upon them. Please know that if you need anything, we will be there for you. Jo and I are keeping you and your family in our thoughts. Love ya, buddy.
Cliff